Technology and Relationships

10 03 2010

In issue 113 of The Lavender Lens, I wrote an article on the role technology plays in relationships. In addition to my own personal experiences, the basis of this article was input from my Facebook friends. Not all of my Facebook friends live locally, so I am including a link to the scanned article.

Here it is: Technology and Relationships – Nested Lez – Lavender Lens

Thanks everyone for your input and help!

Part two will be published in the next edition of The Lavender Lens.

Support Same-sex Marriage Equality – Vote NO on CA Prop 8

16 07 2008

On Saturday, July 12, 2008 (exactly 5 years after our commitment ceremony), my partner Julie and I went to the County Administration building, turned in the necessary paperwork, and got legally married. Unlike our commitment ceremony (we had always considered it a wedding), which had about 100 guests, there were four witnesses to our civil ceremony. We considered it a renewal of our vows, but it was so much more. Read the rest of this entry »

Marriage for Same-Sex Couples in California: FAQs

17 05 2008

Five years ago I had my commitment ceremony with my partner. We exchanged rings, but I stated I eventually would want a traditional solid wedding band. I told my partner that I wanted to get those bands either when we celebrated our fifth anniversary or when marriage became legal. Well look at that, it’s five years later and both things are happening.

You, like me and many others, might have some questions about same-sex marriages in California. Equity California (EQ CA) has provided answers to many of these questions. I have provided their FAQs below. Congratulations to us all! Read the rest of this entry »

Appreciating Your Partner and Establishing a Balance

10 04 2008

I dropped my partner Julie off at the airport this morning. She has a sales meeting in Whistler, Canada. I would have loved to join her, but these annual meetings are “no spouses allowed” events. The company keeps their schedule pretty booked and everyone has a roommate in their hotel room, so even if I tagged along on my own, I wouldn’t get to spend any time with her. Read the rest of this entry »

New Year with a New Perspective

10 01 2008

I can’t believe it is January 2008 already. Well, we’ve made it through another whirlwind of the holidays. I hope everyone had a great holiday season.

Because it is January, I have been thinking a little about resolutions for the New Year. I have decided that I don’t like the thought of resolutions since so many statistics discuss how many New Year’s resolutions are broken before the end of January. No, instead I am going to plan out some goals for the year. I can work with goals. I know it may just seem like I’m dealing with semantics here (and maybe I am), but truthfully I think having the right attitude is half the battle. Read the rest of this entry »

Don’t Veto Same-Sex Marriage “for the People” until You listen to ALL of the People of California

18 09 2007

California governor Arnold Schwarzenegger stated that he will veto bill AB43, which would recognize same-sex marriage in California, because he wants to support the March 2000 vote for Proposition 22. Today, as a member of “the people of California,” I submitted an email to Governor Schwarzenegger. I urge you to do the same. Below, is my email. Let your voice be heard! Email the governor (and select “Gender-neutral marriage.\AB00043”).

Dear Governor Schwarzenegger, Read the rest of this entry »

Who Made Them the Moral Authority About What Rights I Should Have?

18 09 2007

I am not a politician, nor do I have any desire to be. In fact, other than the fact that I am registered to vote and that I tend to exercise that right, I am not political in any sense. Yes, I tend to lean towards the left and look for gay-friendly politicians, but it doesn’t mean that I have never voted for a Republican.

That being said, I don’t like politicians and courts who deem my relationship any less important than the relationship my siblings share with their spouses. I have been with my partner for over six years and we were married in 2003. For those of you who are ready to tell me that I can’t possibly be married to another woman, please allow me to clarify. My partner and I held a ceremony officiated by a minister in which we declared our love for one another in front of our family, friends, and God. We also registered as domestic partners with the state of California. So, no, literally I am not married; however, in my mind, I am married. Unfortunately, although I share a loving union with my wife, I do not get the basic rights that come with federal marriage. Read the rest of this entry »

Welcome to Nested Lez Online

14 08 2007

Hello and welcome to my blog. If you are a reader of San Diego’s Lavender Lens magazine then you are most likely (hopefully) familiar with my monthly column Nested Lez. If you are unfamiliar with this column, allow me to give a brief overview.

I write a monthly column for the free monthly lesbian and friends magazine called the Lavender Lens. In my column, I tend to discuss issues that are geared more towards the “nested” lesbian. By this, I mean Read the rest of this entry »