A Conversation I Hope You Never Have

4 10 2010
Walking For All Boobs

Member of 3-Day for the Cure Team F.A.B. (For All Boobs)

In honor of National Breast Cancer Awareness Month I wanted to share a scene between two friends.

Emily was afraid of the expression on her own face. Was it appropriate? She was sitting with Christie, one of her closest and oldest friends, and she suddenly felt awkward.

Christie had just told her that she had been diagnosed with breast cancer and Emily just stared at her. She knew that she must not have heard her correctly. Christie was only 32 years old. She was in much better shape than Emily. She could not be sick.

As if she was able to read Emily’s thoughts, Christie spoke again, “Yes, Em, you did hear me. I said cancer.”

Emily blinked back a few tears and finally focused on her friend’s face. Christie was trying to be brave, but the fear was evident in her pale blue eyes. Emily swiftly stood up and crossed to where her friend was sitting. She took Christie in her arms and hugged her. Emily wanted to protect her from this horrible disease, but she knew that all she could do was offer her support. “Oh Chris,” she finally managed to say, “I am so sorry.”

Still in the embrace, Christie’s breath became ragged and her shoulders began to shake. Emily knew that it was the first time that her friend had let herself cry. “I’m here for you Chris. I’ll help you beat this, however I can.”

After a few minutes, Christie’s breathing calmed. She sniffled and then pulled herself from her friend’s embrace. They just sat for a moment. Emily wiped the tears that she had not even realized were falling on her own face. Finally, Christie broke the silence. “Em, I’m so scared.”

“I know Chris, but look at all of the advancements that have been made. This is not a death sentence.” Emily hoped her words gave comfort to her friend, because they offered none to herself. As much as she wanted to believe them, she couldn’t. She feared for her friend’s health and her life.

A feeling of guilt washed over Emily as she realized that she was also fearful for herself. Chris had always been there for her and she was afraid of two things: that she couldn’t reciprocate that support and that she might lose the support system she had come to rely on. Emily shook her head at her own thoughts. She was being selfish and she knew it. Christie needed her and she was going to give her all of the support that she could.

Emily prayed that the fear that was creeping into her mind did not show on her face. No matter how much support she gave to Christie, she could not protect her from the cancer. They had to rely on doctors, medicine, and faith. With her faith in life already a bit shaky, Emily feared the worse.

Christie hugged her friend again. “I’m so glad you’re here Em. You give me the strength to fight. You’re right; I think we can beat this.”

Emily tightened her embrace on her friend. She did not speak the words on her mind. She just hoped that Christie was right.


I truly hope that you do not find yourself in the place of either of these women; however, chances are high that you probably will (or you already have).

3-Day for the Cure Breast Cancer Fundraiser

Raising money to reach my Komen 3-Day for the Cure Goal

Breast cancer statistics are pretty scary, including:

  • Every 69 seconds, somewhere in the world, a woman dies of breast cancer.
  • There is a 1 in 8 chance that a woman will get breast cancer in her lifetime.

These are not statistics that I can allow to remain unchanged, so I am doing my part to make a difference.

This year, for the second time, I will be walking in the Susan G. Komen 3-Day for the CureTM. This amazing 60-mile walk, which will take place over 3 days next month in San Diego, raises not only awareness of the disease, but also money to help find a cure for this horrible disease. In order to walk, I need to raise at least $2,300 and I am still falling short of this goal. Please help me in the fight against this disease by donating any amount – large or small – on my personal 3-Day for the Cure fundraising page.

To learn more about the Komen 3-Day for the Cure, visit www.the3day.org.

For more information on breast cancer, including risk factors and warning signs, visit the websites below:

Thank you for your support. And remember, you are your greatest advocate for your breast health:

  • Perform regular breast exams.
  • Get scheduled mammograms.
  • Talk to your doctor about your family history and any other risk factors you may have.

Everyone deserves a lifetime.

Help me reach my goal for the Susan G. Komen San Diego 3-Day for the Cure!



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