Yes, it is sad but true, the California Supreme Court upheld Prop 8, which has stripped away the right of same-sex couples to marry in the state. However, the Supreme Court did allow those 18,000 who were legally married in the state between the original Supreme Court decision allowing same-sex marriage in 2008 and the fateful November 2008 election to remain married. These marriages were not retroactively revoked. Although I am pleased that my marriage is still acknowledged by the State, I am appalled that my friends will not be granted that same opportunity to not only express their their love, but also receive the benefits and respect associated with marriage. My fight is for all of those who no longer have the option of a civil marriage in the state of California.

Quick! Think of 8 women in your life? Could be your mom, sisters, friends, wife, partner, girlfriend, daughter, nieces, coworkers, and even yourself. Did you think of 8? OK, now pick one of those to get breast cancer. Not something you want to do, is it? Well, lucky for you, you don’t have to make that decision of who gets breast cancer. Unlucky for you, chances are 1 of those 8 women will get breast cancer.

Hello Nested Lez Readers.

I want to address the issues that have stemmed from last night’s elections – our first African-American President and the passing of California’s Prop 8. However, right now, I know that anything I try to write will be distorted my my hurt and my anger regarding Prop 8.

I will address the election, but I need some time to process my emotions a bit. That being said, I want to share an email message from

Congratulations Mayor Jerry Sanders! Jerry Sanders has won the June mayoral election and garnered over 50% of the vote, which means there will not need to be a runoff election in November 2008 for San Diego mayor.

It’s funny. If you had asked me a year ago, let alone when he was running for mayor in 2005, if I would be extended my congratulations to Jerry Sanders, I probably would have told you that you were crazy. It takes a lot to get me to even give a Republican a passing glance, but Mayor Sanders not only got me to pay attention, but also to vote for him. Although I am not someone who votes strictly by the party line, I tend to strongly favor Democrats and independents over Republicans. Yet, a few weeks ago I found myself at a meet and greet with Mayor Sanders.

I dropped my partner Julie off at the airport this morning. She has a sales meeting in Whistler, Canada. I would have loved to join her, but these annual meetings are “no spouses allowed” events. The company keeps their schedule pretty booked and everyone has a roommate in their hotel room, so even if I tagged along on my own, I wouldn’t get to spend any time with her.

I can’t believe it is January 2008 already. Well, we’ve made it through another whirlwind of the holidays. I hope everyone had a great holiday season.

Because it is January, I have been thinking a little about resolutions for the New Year. I have decided that I don’t like the thought of resolutions since so many statistics discuss how many New Year’s resolutions are broken before the end of January. No, instead I am going to plan out some goals for the year. I can work with goals. I know it may just seem like I’m dealing with semantics here (and maybe I am), but truthfully I think having the right attitude is half the battle.

The following information was forwarded to me by Bixi B. Craig, the publisher of the Lavender Lens. I thought it was good information, so I wanted to share it with you. It covers:

• How to Help
• Tips
• Where to Donate
• How to Volunteer
• If You Live Near a Fire (including what to pack)

Here is the LGBT Center Action Alert:

How to Help During the Fires

Unfortunately, I can’t say that I’m surprised that Gov. Arnold Schwarzenegger vetoed AB43, the bill that supported same sex marriage in California. Granted, a small part of me had hoped that the governor would have a change of heart like Jerry Sanders, the Republican mayor of San Diego, but in my heart, I knew he would veto the bill. Am I disappointed, of course. But, this is the second time that a bill like this has made it as far as the governor’s desk. Who knows, maybe the third time is a charm.

I also need to remember that the California Supreme Court is currently investigating if Proposition 22, which was voted on in March 2000 and bans same sex marriage, is unconstitutional. So my friends, there is still hope.

Hello and welcome to my blog. If you are a reader of San Diego’s Lavender Lens magazine then you are most likely (hopefully) familiar with my monthly column Nested Lez. If you are unfamiliar with this column, allow me to give a brief overview.

I write a monthly column for the free monthly lesbian and friends magazine called the Lavender Lens. In my column, I tend to discuss issues that are geared more towards the “nested” lesbian. By this, I mean